Just a note to the detractors
For those who are mad I called their loved one a kidnapper:
I am female. I have no children. My parents are divorced, but had a amiable seperation and get along fine with each other. I have no major issues with either parent. I am not a misogynist or a misandrist, although I have misanthrope tendencies. I am not harder on abductors of the gender of your loved one. I think kidnapping is a crime, and is child abuse. If your accounts are ancedotes and are not backed up with actual evidence, I won’t fall all over your feet to agree with you. If you give me court documents, please give me the whole document in question so I can judge it in context. Do not claim you are unrelated to the abductor; do not lie about your location.
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